The mayor of Colorado Springs, Yemi Mobolade, partnered with community organizations and set a goal for 1,000 neighborhood gatherings in our city in 2024. As of now the city has recorded 453 times neighbors have come together for potlucks, backyard picnics, impromptu sports activities in parks, etc., so we’re well on our way to meeting the goal.
Why? Because connection matters. There is an epidemic of loneliness in our society and our city at the base of Pikes Peak is not immune to this problem. A person can have half a million friends on social media and still feel lonely. Newcomers to town may find it hard to meet anyone. Hard working neighbors come home weary, enter their homes through their garages, and stay inside. There’s no connection.
Studies have proven that feeling alone can lead to mental illness, so our city set out “to encourage neighbors to connect with one another to address social isolation and loneliness.” Each neighborhood event held can then be registered on the city’s website.
The neighborhood we live in had a head start. Every summer our HOA sponsors monthly gatherings in our common area where neighbors can chat and eat together. In June we enjoyed wine and cheese. This month we had an ice cream social. Next month is a dessert gathering. What’s not to like? A few stick-on name tags, some extra camp chairs, and we’ve got ourselves a party.
Could making an effort to connect be the answer not only to loneliness, but to problems like neighborhood disputes and crime as well? Once we know someone, we’re much more likely to work out an issue with a dog or a fence before it escalates, or to keep watch over someone’s house when they are on vacation. As the sense of community grows, so does the feeling that we belong—that we aren’t alone after all. And it starts with connection.
Connection could even help us get through this election season with fewer wounds. Respect for one another’s opinions, and maybe having a second serving of ice cream instead of regaling a neighbor with exactly what we think and why, could go a long way toward closing the huge divide we have in our country now. Since the assassination attempt on former President Trump, both parties have talked about tempering the hateful rhetoric. Maybe they will do so and maybe they won’t, but we can do our part. With God’s help, we can think twice before we speak, use language that is respectful, and love our neighbors as ourselves.
Those who watch The Chosen series get an inside glimpse into the life Jesus shared with His disciples, who didn’t always get along well with one another in case you didn’t know. This disgruntled bunch must have been dismayed when He said as recorded in John 13:34, “A new command I give you.” They had spent their lives trying to live up to all the commandments of the Jewish faith, so they wouldn’t be too excited to hear about a new one. Imagine their surprise when He continued, “Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” Love. The best connection of all. And the best way to combat loneliness and isolation in our society.
Jimmie says
Hey, I am with you!!I love those neighborhood gatherings, we had one our first year, should try again!
I just started Hillbilly Elergy😁
Nancy says
Hope it’s a good one, Jimmie! Take your corn dip!
Rolle says
Nancy, this is a very timely word, “Connection,” you give us. Thank you for it. “Disconnection,” which sadly describes the sad state of affairs to which you succinctly refer, was never an option for Our Lord Jesus. Your final words are spot on. We must try harder to connect. I’ll take your advice and have another scoop of ice cream instead of regaling my neighbor! And try harder to love my neighbor. You are appreciated. 😃
Nancy says
You’re loving so many so well, Rolle. Thanks for getting the message. I wrote it to remind MYSELF of how the Lord wants me to behave in these troubled times. Love first. And maybe just leave it at that!
Sue Finger says
Thanks, Nancy! And that common area brings back memories!
Nancy says
I’m sure it does, Sue, and we still miss you. Flo’s house is on the market if you want to come back and be our neighbor! 🙂
Peggy Ellis says
That’s the best mayoral decision I’ve learned about possibly forever! There are many connection references in today’s media–we must connect on FB, on X, on LI, and other alphabet combinations, but the only connection we truly need is spelled out: GOD. Thanks for the reminder.
Nancy says
So true, Peggy. Thanks for reading and staying in touch. God bless.